It is not so much what happens to us in life, but the meaning we place on the experience and then how much space we allow it to occupy within us. Our minds tend to make unconscious choices as to how we store this experience – for some that can be good, for others, not so. For example, a job loss or a relationship ending would be perceived by most as a negative experience, but, there is still an individualized perceptual magnitude that is open for consideration. Consciously or unconsciously, we choose to store this event as either positive or negative on our emotional computer. Storage can be as a prominent screensaver, a smaller desktop icon, or perhaps a more buried folder or document within. How we store the event also determines how frequently we access it and how visible it is to others. The intensity of our thought patterns can vary even as people process a similar event differently
Psychotherapy can be a life-changing experience as we learn how our emotional storage impacts our thinking and our daily results. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy involves identifying negative beliefs and rephrasing them into a more optimistic and encouraging message. Since we become what we think about the most and can always find evidence to support our beliefs, it is important to take charge of
our thoughts. Sometime changing our thought patterns is not enough to change our automatic response. This then requires us to do the deeper work of examining and cleansing the underlying emotions which are driving the negative thoughts. This approach is particularly powerful and effective when we examine our current
results in relation to our goals for ourselves, our family and our organizations.
“If you think you can, or you think you can’t – you will always be right.”
- Henry Ford